Over the past several months, We have started incorporating the concept of honor in our parenting, with great success. We are talking about reaping and sowing with our 5- and 3-year-old boys, and they understand. If you honor others, others will honor you. They are required to honor (and obey) their mother and father, scripturally, and this mama requires that her children honor others.
That means honoring your big brother when he had a toy first. That honor sounds like “May I have a turn when you’re done, please,” rather than grabbing and whining. And big brother honors his little brother’s request with a simple yes, or a suggestion to take turns. (Remarkably, he often is finished with it immediately, because of how honored he feels).
It also means honoring the person on the other end of the phone as well as mama or daddy, by remaining quiet during the phone call so the two parties can hear. By not interrupting, it means that I can better give my undivided attention to them when it is their turn.
Honor also means finding out peoples names, and making a point of using them at least 3 times. The other person feels honored when they hear their name, and my little ones are more likely to remember it the next time they meet. (As a bonus, this one is a great business skill that will likely profit them greatly in life).
Honor also applies to ourselves, so honoring their bodies with proper nutrition, sleep, and play. And speaking well of themselves instead of poorly.
This one simple word has been a blanket that covers a multitude of behavior issues that creep up. We can point back to one basic concept, and they start to categorize behaviors as honoring or dishonoring and make better choices. Have you used this word? How does it work in your family?